"Kind words are like honey; sweet to the soul and healing for the body." Proverbs 16:24
If you have been reading this blog or received an e-mail from me in the last 9 months, the verse above will be a familiar one. It's the verse I chose that includes my word in a way that is significant to me.
My word is HONEY! I know, it's kind of an odd word, but I'm kind of an odd person when it comes to words :) I love everything about this word: from it's literal state of a food to it's symbolism in Scripture. I even like that there is a not-so-nice side to honey, because, well, there's a not so-nice-side to me. But I am getting ahead of myself... let me go back and tell you how I chose that word.
When I first heard of My One Word, by Mike Ashcraft and Rachel Olsen, I went onto the website (click here to visit it) to see what it was all about. I decided I would choose a word before I read the book, based on what I read and listened to on the site. That didn't work out too well - I completely forgot the word I chose! To this day, I don't remember what it was. For me, that was a confirmation that what I thought was something I had to 'work on' wasn't what God had in mind. I chose a word based on what I wanted to fix about myself and it was a good one (I do remember that), but without God's Word to build upon, it wasn't going to stick!
So, I started reading the book during our study. I followed the advice of making lists and refining my list, though again, I didn't quite do it in the order suggested. In the end it was the word honey that appeared. My description of honey (and it's makers) was everything I felt I should be/wanted to be: translucent but not transparent, natural, slower moving, sweet, healthy, useful, food for others, rely on God (scientifically, bees shouldn't be able to fly, but they do by the grace of God). I want to be like that! Even the not-so-nice things about honey spoke to me: chewed up-spit out & still beautiful, made & protected by bees that can sting, a hidden treasure, it's not for everyone. Discovering my word was a process (just as making honey is) and I felt drawn to this idea of being like honey. I was surprised by the number of times the word appears in scripture, but my area of need was in relation to words. I use them, I love them, but too often I misuse them in hurtful ways. THAT is not what God intended. God intended that I use my gift with words in a kind & nurturing way. Armed with my one word and it's corresponding Scripture, I started moving towards the person God created me to be.
As Mike suggests in the book, I put my word in front of me daily. At first I ate a spoonful of honey every morning. I added it to my tea and on my toast. This was a very physical way to ingest the Word and make it real. Soon after that, I added it as my e-mail signature. This has served to remind me with every e-mail I write, to be kind. One of the ways my word has morphed (chapter 7) is that I am also reminded to be kind to myself. When I am dealing with someone who has hurt me or my family, I am as kind as I can be, without being false. I guard my heart by saying how I feel without being cruel. How others choose to interpret my words is up to them. And in the same manner, I squelch that critical inner voice that can be my biggest opponent. Using kind words to heal myself has been a soothing balm.
Here's a few more ways My One Word has influenced my life:
It causes me to rethink how I respond to people & situations.
I choose a slower path when making decisions.
I rely on God to change me.
My view of how others use words & react has been enhanced.
I choose my words more wisely.
I try, really hard, to be kind.
When I am overwhelmed or at a loss for ideas, I focus on my word, and I am inspired.
Am I completely transformed? Do I never say mean things? Am I unendingly supportive & encouraging? Do I control all my reactions to people & situations?
Not by a long shot!! It is an ongoing process. But I am moving forward, improving how I use my words every day. Even when I have a moment, day, or week where I seem to be going backwards, I am reminded through my word, that there is beauty in things that have been chewed up and spit out, as long as those things are created and nurtured by God.
How has your word changed you, your view of the world, and your faith journey? I am sorry to have to miss our gathering this Friday and hear how your One Word has worked transformations in your life. I would love to know how this is going for you - please share in the comment section below.
"The eyes of our heart, once enlightened - to borrow a phrase from Paul - show us a reality that our physical eyes cannot see. A reality based on the words and promises of God. " Mike Ashcraft, My One Word p. 107
"Change is possible. Focus is required. And depenence on God is absolutely foundational." Mike Ashcraft, My One Word p 40-41.
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey; sweet to the soul and healing for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Thursday, December 5, 2013
Thursday, November 14, 2013
Week 6 - A Confident Heart - Chapters 11 & 12
"Everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope." Romans 15:4
Welcome to our final week of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart. I am so glad you are here with me! We read this book at a faster pace than previous studies, so congratulate yourself on a job well done. With our busy lives, I know it wasn't easy, but I suspect that you will agree with me when I say, it was worth it!
In chapter 11 Renee reminds us of a few points that I think are very important.
She says, "I want you to know that living in the power of God's promises isn't a one-time thing... return to every truth..., again and again." (pg 204)
This is a reminder to stay in God's word. It is how we come to know God: His promises, His forgiveness, His love. We cannot know or believe something if we don't take the time to read it, learn it, and live it. When it comes to learning, repetition is the key! When it comes to relationships, time and attention are vital. To know God's promises, read them over and over. In order to have a relationship with Him, spend time together. There are wonderful examples of people, just like us, in the Bible. People who are not perfect, who need coaxing & convincing, who are broken, lost, and struggling. People who are called & chosen by God, but still stray or disobey. God does not give up on them and He does not give up on us. Learn the promises He has for us by reading the Bible daily. That is where we will find the answers to our most troubling questions and a guide for living a Saved life in this fallen world.
Renee also says, "As we live in the power of God's promises, we will still have struggles... As we become the women we want to be, and more importantly the women God created and called us to be, we will still go through times when we have questions and doubts. Sometimes we may even ask, Is God enough?" (pg 211).
This second point is a tough, but obvious one! Of course Christians have struggles. In fact, some of the most faithful people I know have some of the biggest life struggles! "But why?!", is what I hear from others and often ask myself. 'Why would a faithful Christian still face hardship or disease or broken relationships? Doesn't God bless His children and aren't Christians nice people that everyone gets along with? ' These are questions for the ages! As I read the Bible, I see that I am not alone in the asking of these questions. And yes, the answers are in there, too. The short answer I have come to, for my own understanding, is that blessings and hardships surround us, believers & non-believers alike. The difference being who we go to for comfort and strength. Who we look to in times of doubt. How we view ourselves when trouble is standing before us. Whose hand we hold when we are walking through darkness. Christians cry out to God for help; we reach for Jesus' hand to guide us. No matter what, we know that we are loved and will not be abandoned. We face no challenge, take no journey, stand against no enemy alone! Our God is with us!
It was no accident or happenstance that the stories of the Bible were passed down through generations and written in many languages, for all to read. As Paul tells the Christians in Rome, "Everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope." Romans 15:4. God knew we would face many difficulties and would be in need of continued reminders of His love & faithfulness. He knew we would need role models and guidance. I encourage you to return to the Word again and again to look for answers, gain perspective, and draw closer to God.
Throughout A Confident Heart, Renee gives us tools to help us use Scripture to drive away the shadows: "When-Then" statements (pg 60), inserting our name into Scripture, praying God's word, remembering who we are in Christ (chart on pg 107-108), "AM/FM" statements (pg 113), discovering our spiritual gifts (pg 147), creating time & space to spend with Jesus (pg 175), and learning who God is through His names (pg 194). All of chapter 12 is a chart of Scripture to combat our self-doubt and help us "live in the security of God's promises". Hopefully one or more of these practices resonated with you, that you can use them in your everyday walk with the Lord.
I pray that as you read this book and studied Scripture, you started to uncover your Confident Heart. And as you go on from here, you will continue to grow in faith. Keep this book handy! It is a wonderful resource and one that can be read multiple times. I've read it twice in the last year and a half and discovered something new in every chapter.
Now, it's your turn!!!
What spoke to your heart? Was there something in any part of the book that made you say, "Ah-ha!" A revelation? Something that you have started doing to reveal your confident heart and start becoming the woman God created you to be? Whatever you would like to share, I would love to read!
What a blessing it is to be on this journey together!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Welcome to our final week of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart. I am so glad you are here with me! We read this book at a faster pace than previous studies, so congratulate yourself on a job well done. With our busy lives, I know it wasn't easy, but I suspect that you will agree with me when I say, it was worth it!
In chapter 11 Renee reminds us of a few points that I think are very important.
She says, "I want you to know that living in the power of God's promises isn't a one-time thing... return to every truth..., again and again." (pg 204)
This is a reminder to stay in God's word. It is how we come to know God: His promises, His forgiveness, His love. We cannot know or believe something if we don't take the time to read it, learn it, and live it. When it comes to learning, repetition is the key! When it comes to relationships, time and attention are vital. To know God's promises, read them over and over. In order to have a relationship with Him, spend time together. There are wonderful examples of people, just like us, in the Bible. People who are not perfect, who need coaxing & convincing, who are broken, lost, and struggling. People who are called & chosen by God, but still stray or disobey. God does not give up on them and He does not give up on us. Learn the promises He has for us by reading the Bible daily. That is where we will find the answers to our most troubling questions and a guide for living a Saved life in this fallen world.
Renee also says, "As we live in the power of God's promises, we will still have struggles... As we become the women we want to be, and more importantly the women God created and called us to be, we will still go through times when we have questions and doubts. Sometimes we may even ask, Is God enough?" (pg 211).
This second point is a tough, but obvious one! Of course Christians have struggles. In fact, some of the most faithful people I know have some of the biggest life struggles! "But why?!", is what I hear from others and often ask myself. 'Why would a faithful Christian still face hardship or disease or broken relationships? Doesn't God bless His children and aren't Christians nice people that everyone gets along with? ' These are questions for the ages! As I read the Bible, I see that I am not alone in the asking of these questions. And yes, the answers are in there, too. The short answer I have come to, for my own understanding, is that blessings and hardships surround us, believers & non-believers alike. The difference being who we go to for comfort and strength. Who we look to in times of doubt. How we view ourselves when trouble is standing before us. Whose hand we hold when we are walking through darkness. Christians cry out to God for help; we reach for Jesus' hand to guide us. No matter what, we know that we are loved and will not be abandoned. We face no challenge, take no journey, stand against no enemy alone! Our God is with us!
It was no accident or happenstance that the stories of the Bible were passed down through generations and written in many languages, for all to read. As Paul tells the Christians in Rome, "Everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope." Romans 15:4. God knew we would face many difficulties and would be in need of continued reminders of His love & faithfulness. He knew we would need role models and guidance. I encourage you to return to the Word again and again to look for answers, gain perspective, and draw closer to God.
Throughout A Confident Heart, Renee gives us tools to help us use Scripture to drive away the shadows: "When-Then" statements (pg 60), inserting our name into Scripture, praying God's word, remembering who we are in Christ (chart on pg 107-108), "AM/FM" statements (pg 113), discovering our spiritual gifts (pg 147), creating time & space to spend with Jesus (pg 175), and learning who God is through His names (pg 194). All of chapter 12 is a chart of Scripture to combat our self-doubt and help us "live in the security of God's promises". Hopefully one or more of these practices resonated with you, that you can use them in your everyday walk with the Lord.
I pray that as you read this book and studied Scripture, you started to uncover your Confident Heart. And as you go on from here, you will continue to grow in faith. Keep this book handy! It is a wonderful resource and one that can be read multiple times. I've read it twice in the last year and a half and discovered something new in every chapter.
Now, it's your turn!!!
What spoke to your heart? Was there something in any part of the book that made you say, "Ah-ha!" A revelation? Something that you have started doing to reveal your confident heart and start becoming the woman God created you to be? Whatever you would like to share, I would love to read!
What a blessing it is to be on this journey together!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Chaters 9 & 10 Continued
"We will only overcome our fears by walking through them, holding God's hand and trusting His heart to lead, protect, and preserve us." Renee Swope in A Confident Heart (p. 197)
I can't believe I forgot my favorite part of the blog!! YOUR FAVORITE QUOTES & IDEAS!!
That's something else we lose when we give in to self-doubt, worry, and fear: our mind!
Not that it makes us truly crazy, but when we are occupied with negative thoughts, it's easy to forget other, and often, more important things. Things that don't require as much energy to keep in check. Negative thoughts are like the proverbial squeaky wheel: they demand our attention! And steal our peace. And prevent us from being focused, productive, and truly alive!
I can't believe I forgot my favorite part of the blog!! YOUR FAVORITE QUOTES & IDEAS!!
That's something else we lose when we give in to self-doubt, worry, and fear: our mind!
Not that it makes us truly crazy, but when we are occupied with negative thoughts, it's easy to forget other, and often, more important things. Things that don't require as much energy to keep in check. Negative thoughts are like the proverbial squeaky wheel: they demand our attention! And steal our peace. And prevent us from being focused, productive, and truly alive!
I've been dealing with worry & fear over the last few weeks. Nothing much, but I was treading lightly with a new person in my life. Every time I had to communicate with her, I was concerned that whatever I said would be taken wrong. I was careful how I "spoke" to her, limiting most of my communications to e-mail so I could cafefully craft what I was saying. Something that was suppose to be a fun, collaborative endeavour had become a project filled with stress. After an especially disturbing encounter, I prayed for wisdom & compassion in my attitude. I felt my confidence grow with every future encounter and thought things were going well. When she came at me with fear and control, I thought I was offering peace and information. Then yesterday more hurtful and accusing words from her filled my head & heart with self-doubt! Did I really do what she accused me of? Am I that obtuse that I didn't see that I was causing her misery? How could I do so much harm, when I thought I was doing good?
Through prayer (y'know, the kind where I just open the top of my head and let God in because I'm at such a loss for words), friends, & loved ones I regained my perspective. I was reminded of who I am in Christ. I was reminded that I cannot control how people react and I cannot let their defeating words enter my heart. Paul tells us, "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all the has done. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7. As long as I am living in Christ Jesus, God is guarding my heart and if God is with me, who can stand against me!? NO ONE!
So I followed Paul's advice, and did what I knew would bring me peace; I offered her an apology. Whether or not she accepts it is up to her. My heart is healed through Jehovah Shalom, the Lord my Peace (Judges 6:24). Through this, I was inspired to make cards with the Names of God on them, so that I could keep them with me and be reminded of the promise of who He is. When I figure out how to publish them, I'll share them here on the blog! Until then, you can find a list of God's names and corresponding Scripture on page 194 of A Confident Heart.
NOW! Tell me, what are your favorite quotes from chapters 9 & 10? I look forward to reading all of your comments!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Week 5 - A Confident Heart - Chapters 9 & 10
"Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7
This is one of my favorite verses in the Bible, because I worry! I used to worry a lot - about everything. My mom worries, my great-grandmother worried so I assumed it was 'in my blood'. Some people are wired to worry! Right?
Sure, we all handle things differently. But some of us are overly concerned about life, we play it over & over in our heads, we "over think" our words & actions. This is especially true when we are overwhelmed or find ourselves in a stressful situation or with people who make us uncomfortable.
For years I had read "don't worry" in the Bible and could not understand what it meant. How does one not worry about: the dangers in life, being accepted, finding a job, making right choices, saying the right thing, being good enough, being happy, being safe, not making any big mistakes?! I had no idea! I read the words, but could not grasp their meaning.
As I studied God's word I began to see a pattern. He tells his people (those in the Bible and me & you) "do not be afraid" and "don't worry", a lot! I take comfort in this because it means I am not alone in my worry. And I should look to those people in the Bible as my example of how not to worry.
Another favorite passage about worry is in Matthew 6:25-34. In the NLT translation, Jesus says "don't worry" three times and asks "why worry". He also asks, "Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?" (vs. 27) and answers, "Of course not."
Wow! If you worry, go back and read Jesus' words again. When I read that & it's meaning finally sunk in, it was life changing! Worrying about something does not make it better or add anything good to my life. In fact, Renee has an acronym that I love: Worry Only Robs Rest from You. Take a moment to recall a time you were worried about someone or something. Do you remember how you felt? Did you sleep well, were you unfocused, tired, feeling alone? All of these feelings can lead us further down the path of worry, fear, and doubt.
How do we stop traveling down that dark road? We turn towards the light! We read God's Word and believe what he says. For a reminder, go back to the chart on pages 107-108. What a great list of scripture that tells us who we are in Christ! We hold on to the promise of Grace and trust that we don't need to understand everything, because God does, and that's enough. He is leading us - we just need to trust Him enough to follow Him. Renee has some great tips on how to spend more time in God's word on pages 176-177.
Is one of your worries that you can't follow God consistently? It's one of mine! For a long time I felt God tugging on my heart to guide a Bible study. But how could I, with all my shortcomings?! It's the very reason I don't have an Ichthys magnet on my car. I don't want others to know I'm a Christian when I'm being less than Christian-like behind the wheel! And oh boy, could I relate to Renee's story about the day she spent at her mother's house - it started out beautifully and ended in a mess! I know that feeling of going from a serene place to anger & disappointment in a very short time. Then in comes worry, doubt, and feelings of failure and guilt. I use to spend days beating myself up when I failed spectacularly, but that's not what God wants for us. Instead he offers us grace & mercy (Hebrews 4:16).
All we need to do to receive it, is ask!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
This is one of my favorite verses in the Bible, because I worry! I used to worry a lot - about everything. My mom worries, my great-grandmother worried so I assumed it was 'in my blood'. Some people are wired to worry! Right?
Sure, we all handle things differently. But some of us are overly concerned about life, we play it over & over in our heads, we "over think" our words & actions. This is especially true when we are overwhelmed or find ourselves in a stressful situation or with people who make us uncomfortable.
For years I had read "don't worry" in the Bible and could not understand what it meant. How does one not worry about: the dangers in life, being accepted, finding a job, making right choices, saying the right thing, being good enough, being happy, being safe, not making any big mistakes?! I had no idea! I read the words, but could not grasp their meaning.
As I studied God's word I began to see a pattern. He tells his people (those in the Bible and me & you) "do not be afraid" and "don't worry", a lot! I take comfort in this because it means I am not alone in my worry. And I should look to those people in the Bible as my example of how not to worry.
Another favorite passage about worry is in Matthew 6:25-34. In the NLT translation, Jesus says "don't worry" three times and asks "why worry". He also asks, "Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?" (vs. 27) and answers, "Of course not."
Wow! If you worry, go back and read Jesus' words again. When I read that & it's meaning finally sunk in, it was life changing! Worrying about something does not make it better or add anything good to my life. In fact, Renee has an acronym that I love: Worry Only Robs Rest from You. Take a moment to recall a time you were worried about someone or something. Do you remember how you felt? Did you sleep well, were you unfocused, tired, feeling alone? All of these feelings can lead us further down the path of worry, fear, and doubt.
How do we stop traveling down that dark road? We turn towards the light! We read God's Word and believe what he says. For a reminder, go back to the chart on pages 107-108. What a great list of scripture that tells us who we are in Christ! We hold on to the promise of Grace and trust that we don't need to understand everything, because God does, and that's enough. He is leading us - we just need to trust Him enough to follow Him. Renee has some great tips on how to spend more time in God's word on pages 176-177.
Is one of your worries that you can't follow God consistently? It's one of mine! For a long time I felt God tugging on my heart to guide a Bible study. But how could I, with all my shortcomings?! It's the very reason I don't have an Ichthys magnet on my car. I don't want others to know I'm a Christian when I'm being less than Christian-like behind the wheel! And oh boy, could I relate to Renee's story about the day she spent at her mother's house - it started out beautifully and ended in a mess! I know that feeling of going from a serene place to anger & disappointment in a very short time. Then in comes worry, doubt, and feelings of failure and guilt. I use to spend days beating myself up when I failed spectacularly, but that's not what God wants for us. Instead he offers us grace & mercy (Hebrews 4:16).
All we need to do to receive it, is ask!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Week 4 - Confident Heart - Chapters 7 & 8
"Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." ~ Howard Thurman
Hello again! And welcome to week four of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart!
As a nod toward Halloween, I want to do my blog a little differently this week. Hang in there!
Zombies! They are the latest craze of "scary". They're in the movies & on TV; my son and husband recently ran a charity race where they had to avoid "zombies" on the course. It was fun, even as a spectator, and for a good cause, so in this case being a zombie or running from the zombies was a positive experience.
But, do you ever feel like a zombie? Like you're going through life, from one responsibility to another, but not really living life? With so many things to do, people to please, and obligations vying for our attention, we can quickly feel overwhelmed and lost in our own lives.
I feel like a zombie when I've taken on too much! For me, it happens in cycles. Things are going smoothly, so I take on one more thing. That's not too bad, so I think, 'sure I can do one more little thing, it's only once a month'. Throw in a crisis or two along the way and the next thing I know I'm in Zombieland! I'm running from one thing to the next, I have a list a mile long of things I need to prepare in order to do that one little extra thing, etc., etc! I have a feeling you can relate. I look around and wonder, "what the heck happened!? Where am I? Who am I?"
It's at this time that I realize I have been moving through life; doing, going, keeping up, but not really living my life as God wants. When I'm busy with everything I have to do, there's no time for remembering who I am and whose I am; what it is He made me for and I realize it's been a while since we've had a conversation! When I'm caught up in all of this stuff, that's when I notice my fear of failure creeps into my thoughts: I don't want to fail at anything I've chosen to do or disappoint anyone I offered to help. But why did I offer to help in the first place? Out of prayerful consideration or was it because I wanted to feel important in a certain group of people?
All of this running, doing, fearing, and wanting to be special is draining! Renee says, "...we have God-given emotional needs. When those needs are left completely unmet, we become depleted and tend to operate primarily out of our weaknesses." (pg. 141). WOW! No wonder I sometimes feel like a Zombie - alive, yet not living.
When I feel my inner zombie creeping in, I've learned to stop. I turn from saying "yes" to everything, to asking 'what does God want me to do?'. I turn from wondering how I stack up compared to other moms, to seeing myself from God's perspective. I turn my hurtful words against myself, to God's promises for me.
Zombies may have their place - in folklore, scary movies, and on a 5K charity race! But God calls us, His children, to a full life of peace and hope and joy!
God's promises are my weapons against my inner zombie! It is with God that I can truly come alive! You can, too!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body!" Proverbs 16:24
Hello again! And welcome to week four of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart!
As a nod toward Halloween, I want to do my blog a little differently this week. Hang in there!
Zombies! They are the latest craze of "scary". They're in the movies & on TV; my son and husband recently ran a charity race where they had to avoid "zombies" on the course. It was fun, even as a spectator, and for a good cause, so in this case being a zombie or running from the zombies was a positive experience.
But, do you ever feel like a zombie? Like you're going through life, from one responsibility to another, but not really living life? With so many things to do, people to please, and obligations vying for our attention, we can quickly feel overwhelmed and lost in our own lives.
I feel like a zombie when I've taken on too much! For me, it happens in cycles. Things are going smoothly, so I take on one more thing. That's not too bad, so I think, 'sure I can do one more little thing, it's only once a month'. Throw in a crisis or two along the way and the next thing I know I'm in Zombieland! I'm running from one thing to the next, I have a list a mile long of things I need to prepare in order to do that one little extra thing, etc., etc! I have a feeling you can relate. I look around and wonder, "what the heck happened!? Where am I? Who am I?"
It's at this time that I realize I have been moving through life; doing, going, keeping up, but not really living my life as God wants. When I'm busy with everything I have to do, there's no time for remembering who I am and whose I am; what it is He made me for and I realize it's been a while since we've had a conversation! When I'm caught up in all of this stuff, that's when I notice my fear of failure creeps into my thoughts: I don't want to fail at anything I've chosen to do or disappoint anyone I offered to help. But why did I offer to help in the first place? Out of prayerful consideration or was it because I wanted to feel important in a certain group of people?
All of this running, doing, fearing, and wanting to be special is draining! Renee says, "...we have God-given emotional needs. When those needs are left completely unmet, we become depleted and tend to operate primarily out of our weaknesses." (pg. 141). WOW! No wonder I sometimes feel like a Zombie - alive, yet not living.
When I feel my inner zombie creeping in, I've learned to stop. I turn from saying "yes" to everything, to asking 'what does God want me to do?'. I turn from wondering how I stack up compared to other moms, to seeing myself from God's perspective. I turn my hurtful words against myself, to God's promises for me.
Zombies may have their place - in folklore, scary movies, and on a 5K charity race! But God calls us, His children, to a full life of peace and hope and joy!
God's promises are my weapons against my inner zombie! It is with God that I can truly come alive! You can, too!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body!" Proverbs 16:24
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
Week 3 - A Confident Heart - Chapters 5 & 6
Jesus said to the people, "I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won't be stumbling through the darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life." John 8:12
Welcome to the third week of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart study! I am so glad you are here and can't wait to share this time with you.
How are you doing? It has been, as always, a bit of a crazy week at my house. A little less crazy than some weeks, but with company over the weekend, meetings, extra phone calls & e-mails, a half-day of school in the middle of the week and my computer acting up, it's become a bit less serene than I had planned!
It's times like these that I am so grateful for you and our study. Especially this weeks' chapters! Chapter 5 discusses focus and perspective. The first time I read this chapter, a few years ago, my focus was on my defects about 70% of the time, sometimes 100% of the time! It was dark in there - in the shadow of my doubts about being a good wife, mother, daughter, friend, and Christian. Can you relate?
Paul says, "the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace." (Romans 8:6), so I had to change my perspective.
We need to turn toward the light; turn toward God; turn toward truth (pg. 93). Maybe it seems obvious, but it's not always so easy. It's something we have to chose to do, but first we have to realize that we have turned away from the light. This is the part that sometimes catches me by surprise.
Comparison, Conflict, and Criticism pave the road to doubt. These three C's creep into my day and often I don't even realize it! They are sly and can trigger my doubt in a matter of minutes. Have you been there?
What are we to do when we find ourselves on the road to doubt or living in the shadow of doubt? Jeremiah 29:12-13 tells us to, "...call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." And if you wonder, 'well, how do I do that?', chapter 3 introduced us to Renee's "When, then" statements. They are a wonderfully practical thing we can do to remind us of God's promises, to help us turn toward the light, and see ourselves from His perspective.
The "D" word: doubt! When it's used to stir up negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves and others, it can be very destructive. It's even suggested that sometimes 'doubt' disguises itself as 'worry' or 'fear'. Oh my! I have always been a worrier! However, I am learning that the more I stay in God's word and believe His promises, the less I worry. I didn't say I never worry; I still do, but I also pray, so the worry & doubt no longer overshadow my joy! God's promises have turned me from a "worrier" to a "warrior"!
Throughout the book, Renee has some suggestions on how we can remind ourselves of God's promises. The "when, then" statements on page 60 & in chapter 12, the chart as compiled by Dr. Neil Anderson on pages 107 & 108, and "AM/FM" statements on pages 113-114.
And now I'm going to borrow an amazing idea from Stephanie Clayton over at Proverbs 31! She is also leading a Bible study of A Confident Heart and she has come up with a "No Fail Pail!"
"What is that?" you ask. It is a great way to USE all of these Biblical reminders of God's love & promises! Check out her short video here! I will have a copy of her beautiful "when,then" statements to get you started on your own "No Fail Pail!"
Finally, we have come to the part where I get to hear from you!!!
What was your favorite thing(s) in these chapters? Post them all in the Comments. Do you have a "when, then" statement that you've been using this week? Would you like to share it? I'd love to read it! I know, I know: many of us get together and talk about this on Friday, but not all of us get to do that. Post your comments to stay connected to everyone in our group! Remember, if you are reading this in your e-mail, click here to go to the blog to make your comment.
Praying that your shadow of doubt shrinks as you turn towards Jesus, who is Light!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body!" Proverbs 16:24
Welcome to the third week of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart study! I am so glad you are here and can't wait to share this time with you.
How are you doing? It has been, as always, a bit of a crazy week at my house. A little less crazy than some weeks, but with company over the weekend, meetings, extra phone calls & e-mails, a half-day of school in the middle of the week and my computer acting up, it's become a bit less serene than I had planned!
It's times like these that I am so grateful for you and our study. Especially this weeks' chapters! Chapter 5 discusses focus and perspective. The first time I read this chapter, a few years ago, my focus was on my defects about 70% of the time, sometimes 100% of the time! It was dark in there - in the shadow of my doubts about being a good wife, mother, daughter, friend, and Christian. Can you relate?
Paul says, "the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace." (Romans 8:6), so I had to change my perspective.
We need to turn toward the light; turn toward God; turn toward truth (pg. 93). Maybe it seems obvious, but it's not always so easy. It's something we have to chose to do, but first we have to realize that we have turned away from the light. This is the part that sometimes catches me by surprise.
Comparison, Conflict, and Criticism pave the road to doubt. These three C's creep into my day and often I don't even realize it! They are sly and can trigger my doubt in a matter of minutes. Have you been there?
What are we to do when we find ourselves on the road to doubt or living in the shadow of doubt? Jeremiah 29:12-13 tells us to, "...call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." And if you wonder, 'well, how do I do that?', chapter 3 introduced us to Renee's "When, then" statements. They are a wonderfully practical thing we can do to remind us of God's promises, to help us turn toward the light, and see ourselves from His perspective.
The "D" word: doubt! When it's used to stir up negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves and others, it can be very destructive. It's even suggested that sometimes 'doubt' disguises itself as 'worry' or 'fear'. Oh my! I have always been a worrier! However, I am learning that the more I stay in God's word and believe His promises, the less I worry. I didn't say I never worry; I still do, but I also pray, so the worry & doubt no longer overshadow my joy! God's promises have turned me from a "worrier" to a "warrior"!
Throughout the book, Renee has some suggestions on how we can remind ourselves of God's promises. The "when, then" statements on page 60 & in chapter 12, the chart as compiled by Dr. Neil Anderson on pages 107 & 108, and "AM/FM" statements on pages 113-114.
And now I'm going to borrow an amazing idea from Stephanie Clayton over at Proverbs 31! She is also leading a Bible study of A Confident Heart and she has come up with a "No Fail Pail!"
"What is that?" you ask. It is a great way to USE all of these Biblical reminders of God's love & promises! Check out her short video here! I will have a copy of her beautiful "when,then" statements to get you started on your own "No Fail Pail!"
Finally, we have come to the part where I get to hear from you!!!
What was your favorite thing(s) in these chapters? Post them all in the Comments. Do you have a "when, then" statement that you've been using this week? Would you like to share it? I'd love to read it! I know, I know: many of us get together and talk about this on Friday, but not all of us get to do that. Post your comments to stay connected to everyone in our group! Remember, if you are reading this in your e-mail, click here to go to the blog to make your comment.
Praying that your shadow of doubt shrinks as you turn towards Jesus, who is Light!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body!" Proverbs 16:24
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Week 2 - A Confident Heart - Chapters 3 & 4
"I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the wonderful future he has promised to those he called. I want you to realize what a rich and glorious inheritance he has given to his people." Ephesians 1:18
Welcome! I am so glad to be on this journey with you! Grab a cup of coffee (or tea) and dive in to Chapters 3 & 4 of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart, if you haven't already.
There are several ideas, phrases, and one particular word that Renee uses many times throughout these chapters. Do you know what they are? I have them underlined, sometimes 2 or 3 times, in blue, black, & red ink; I've made notes in the margins & taken notes on paper about them. What do they mean for you?
As Renee's very personal story unfolds, do you find yourself identifying with any part of her situation? I certainly identified with the notion of defining myself through the eyes of others: parents, friends, teachers, my husband, and my children. I calculated my worth based on who I was to them and through their eyes. As I started down the journey of discovering why I hurt, because I did despite the wonderful life I lived, I realized it was because I chose to let negative thoughts dwell in my heart. The doubt grew, my failings grew (even if some were just in my head) and my self-worth dwindled. Like Renee, I had heard that "God loves me" many times, I knew that my parents loved me unconditionally, but for some reason I allowed self-doubt to live in me. I sought fulfillment in trying to be the perfect daughter, wife, mother, crafter, home maker, and entrepreneur! I enjoyed discovering all the facets of doing those things, but there was still an emptiness inside my heart. I was busy, but not fulfilled! And, as Renee points out on page 55, I was the one who was not allowing Jesus to look into those parts of my heart where I most needed Him.
What can we do when doubt and uncertainty start to creep into our hearts? Renee's "When..., then..." statements are a wonderful way to help us "stop and ask Jesus to help us see the worth we are placing in other things and the worth we are seeking in other people." A few examples can be found on page 60. I encourage you to write some of your own "when, then" statements, tuck them in your car, your purse, and anywhere else you might need a quick reminder of God's unconditional love.
We continue with "Sam's" story, too. She shows us how Jesus can take us from "mess" to "messenger" by allowing Him into the broken places in our hearts. And although Sam's transformation takes place within a few lines of Scripture, Renee reminds us that "...finding satisfaction in Christ and living in the security of His promises is a daily process." (pg.61).
Here is a list of a few other points that I am still absorbing from these chapters!:
*"unfailing love" is mentioned 32 times in the Bible and is only ever attributed to God
*falling into the patterns of this world's thinking, losing sight of Jesus as my confidence and completion, can happen over a period of minutes! Oh my, that has happened to me and afterwards I wonder, "What the heck just happened?! How did I get to that low place so quickly?"
*Jeremiah 29 sounds a lot like Jeremiah 1!
*The "sin of my unrealistic expectations" - ouch!
*Ephesians 4 - we meet again, and I am so glad for it!
Our new challenge for this study!
Whether you can attend on Friday morning or are doing this at your own pace through the blog: Please post your favorite quote from this week's reading in the comment section below. It can be something that inspires you, that made you say "ah ha!", or any thing that struck you as you were reading. If you have more than one, list them all. There were some real treasures this week! It is a great way to stay connected throughout the week! No need to wait to receive my post, either. Add your comments whenever the spirit moves you by visiting www.reonlineblog.blogspot.com.
I can't wait to read your comments!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Welcome! I am so glad to be on this journey with you! Grab a cup of coffee (or tea) and dive in to Chapters 3 & 4 of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart, if you haven't already.
There are several ideas, phrases, and one particular word that Renee uses many times throughout these chapters. Do you know what they are? I have them underlined, sometimes 2 or 3 times, in blue, black, & red ink; I've made notes in the margins & taken notes on paper about them. What do they mean for you?
As Renee's very personal story unfolds, do you find yourself identifying with any part of her situation? I certainly identified with the notion of defining myself through the eyes of others: parents, friends, teachers, my husband, and my children. I calculated my worth based on who I was to them and through their eyes. As I started down the journey of discovering why I hurt, because I did despite the wonderful life I lived, I realized it was because I chose to let negative thoughts dwell in my heart. The doubt grew, my failings grew (even if some were just in my head) and my self-worth dwindled. Like Renee, I had heard that "God loves me" many times, I knew that my parents loved me unconditionally, but for some reason I allowed self-doubt to live in me. I sought fulfillment in trying to be the perfect daughter, wife, mother, crafter, home maker, and entrepreneur! I enjoyed discovering all the facets of doing those things, but there was still an emptiness inside my heart. I was busy, but not fulfilled! And, as Renee points out on page 55, I was the one who was not allowing Jesus to look into those parts of my heart where I most needed Him.
What can we do when doubt and uncertainty start to creep into our hearts? Renee's "When..., then..." statements are a wonderful way to help us "stop and ask Jesus to help us see the worth we are placing in other things and the worth we are seeking in other people." A few examples can be found on page 60. I encourage you to write some of your own "when, then" statements, tuck them in your car, your purse, and anywhere else you might need a quick reminder of God's unconditional love.
We continue with "Sam's" story, too. She shows us how Jesus can take us from "mess" to "messenger" by allowing Him into the broken places in our hearts. And although Sam's transformation takes place within a few lines of Scripture, Renee reminds us that "...finding satisfaction in Christ and living in the security of His promises is a daily process." (pg.61).
Here is a list of a few other points that I am still absorbing from these chapters!:
*"unfailing love" is mentioned 32 times in the Bible and is only ever attributed to God
*falling into the patterns of this world's thinking, losing sight of Jesus as my confidence and completion, can happen over a period of minutes! Oh my, that has happened to me and afterwards I wonder, "What the heck just happened?! How did I get to that low place so quickly?"
*Jeremiah 29 sounds a lot like Jeremiah 1!
*The "sin of my unrealistic expectations" - ouch!
*Ephesians 4 - we meet again, and I am so glad for it!
Our new challenge for this study!
Whether you can attend on Friday morning or are doing this at your own pace through the blog: Please post your favorite quote from this week's reading in the comment section below. It can be something that inspires you, that made you say "ah ha!", or any thing that struck you as you were reading. If you have more than one, list them all. There were some real treasures this week! It is a great way to stay connected throughout the week! No need to wait to receive my post, either. Add your comments whenever the spirit moves you by visiting www.reonlineblog.blogspot.com.
I can't wait to read your comments!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
A Confident Heart - Week 1 - Chapters 1 & 2
"But blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have made the Lord their hope and confidence." Jeremiah 17:7
Welcome to week 1 of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart!
I am so glad that this book comes on the heels of our study on Spiritual Gifts. Just because we know what our Spiritual Gifts are doesn't mean we automatically have the courage to use them. That's where studying God's Word, living in it daily, and being in a faith community comes in to play. We live in a broken world, one where doubt can take hold of us and keep us from being who God created us to be. As we read through this book and spend time with the questions is raises, we'll uncover what "doubt" really is, where it comes from and how to move from doubt to confidence.
In chapter one, Renee tells the story of how she discovered "the shadow of my doubts" (p.22). I can relate to many of her questions, fears, and doubts! But then she moves into God's Word and the promises He has for us. This can be a trans formative process if "you are willing to have honest, soul-searching conversations about where you are, how you got here, and where you really long to be." (p. 24). That is where real change happens! Renee is a wonderful writer, able to relate, entertain, and lift up God's word. But faith is a personal journey. God knows us and he desires us to know Him. The best way to do that is to study His word and be honest with Him & yourself.
Chapter two talks about the "P" word: Perfect! It can be both a blessing and a curse. I used to struggle mightily with this idea of being perfect, but then I learned that God's perfect love was the only true perfection there is and my attempt to be perfect (in the world's eyes) was destructive to me and those around me. God's perfect love is a blessing; being a perfectionist in this world can be a curse by raising self-doubt and hiding behind a facade of "I'm fine!". This chapter is filled with stories & Scripture, you'll even meet a character you may know from the 1st Century, the Samaritan woman! Find out how her story relates to our 21st Century lives.
We are moving at a quicker pace than in the past, but I know you can do it! Most chapters can be read in 10-15 minutes. The questions at the end are the place where you will need to spend some quiet, thinking time. This is also where you will make the most profound discoveries! Take the time - Do the work - You will not regret it!
Because we are reading more material each week, we will not be able to discuss each question. Choose a favorite quote or two from each chapter and a question you would like to explore. These are the things we will talk about in person each Friday.
Below is a new request I'd like to try for every week of this study!
Everyone: whether you can attend on Friday morning or are doing this at your own pace through the blog: Please post your favorite quote from this week's reading in the comment section below. It can be something that inspires you, that made you say "ah ha!", or any thing that struck you as you were reading. It is a great way to stay connected throughout the week! No need to wait to receive my post, either. Add your comments whenever the spirit moves you by visiting www.reonlineblog.blogspot.com. I can't wait to read your posts!!
"Stop doubting yourself & live in the security of God's promises"
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healing for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Welcome to week 1 of Renee Swope's A Confident Heart!
I am so glad that this book comes on the heels of our study on Spiritual Gifts. Just because we know what our Spiritual Gifts are doesn't mean we automatically have the courage to use them. That's where studying God's Word, living in it daily, and being in a faith community comes in to play. We live in a broken world, one where doubt can take hold of us and keep us from being who God created us to be. As we read through this book and spend time with the questions is raises, we'll uncover what "doubt" really is, where it comes from and how to move from doubt to confidence.
In chapter one, Renee tells the story of how she discovered "the shadow of my doubts" (p.22). I can relate to many of her questions, fears, and doubts! But then she moves into God's Word and the promises He has for us. This can be a trans formative process if "you are willing to have honest, soul-searching conversations about where you are, how you got here, and where you really long to be." (p. 24). That is where real change happens! Renee is a wonderful writer, able to relate, entertain, and lift up God's word. But faith is a personal journey. God knows us and he desires us to know Him. The best way to do that is to study His word and be honest with Him & yourself.
Chapter two talks about the "P" word: Perfect! It can be both a blessing and a curse. I used to struggle mightily with this idea of being perfect, but then I learned that God's perfect love was the only true perfection there is and my attempt to be perfect (in the world's eyes) was destructive to me and those around me. God's perfect love is a blessing; being a perfectionist in this world can be a curse by raising self-doubt and hiding behind a facade of "I'm fine!". This chapter is filled with stories & Scripture, you'll even meet a character you may know from the 1st Century, the Samaritan woman! Find out how her story relates to our 21st Century lives.
We are moving at a quicker pace than in the past, but I know you can do it! Most chapters can be read in 10-15 minutes. The questions at the end are the place where you will need to spend some quiet, thinking time. This is also where you will make the most profound discoveries! Take the time - Do the work - You will not regret it!
Because we are reading more material each week, we will not be able to discuss each question. Choose a favorite quote or two from each chapter and a question you would like to explore. These are the things we will talk about in person each Friday.
Below is a new request I'd like to try for every week of this study!
Everyone: whether you can attend on Friday morning or are doing this at your own pace through the blog: Please post your favorite quote from this week's reading in the comment section below. It can be something that inspires you, that made you say "ah ha!", or any thing that struck you as you were reading. It is a great way to stay connected throughout the week! No need to wait to receive my post, either. Add your comments whenever the spirit moves you by visiting www.reonlineblog.blogspot.com. I can't wait to read your posts!!
"Stop doubting yourself & live in the security of God's promises"
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healing for the body." Proverbs 16:24
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
"Respond by reaching out to each other and our community, in love and support"
"So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to perservere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. " Herbrews 10:35-36
I am very excited about our gathering this week! One of the "Re's" that our Re: group stands for is "Respond". We respond to the needs of our community by doing something to help those in need. There are many ways to do this indivudually, but there's something about coming together to serve others. The beauty of Faith Kitchen is that it offers both an individual way to contribute (donating food) and a more social way (group cooking). There's also the opportunity to Serve (Oct 10), offering a chance to physically get out into the community and share God's love in a real & pratical way. We have been talking about spiritual gifts and it seems that no matter what your gift is, you can find a way to use it in the Faith Kitchen Ministry! Please keep those who coordinate, contribute to, and benefit from this ministry in your prayers.
There have been a few e-mails regarding the cooking we will be doing on Friday, but if there are any more questions, please reach out to Tammy, Paula, or me. If you don't have contact information, please leave a post and I will get in touch with you privately.
A reminder that we will start at our regular time, 9:15am, with a snack & beverages, but we will be meeting in the big kitchen! We will be baking the meatloaves & then freezing them, so we need to start as close to on time as possible, so that we can finish within our time limit.
While we cook up a storm, we will continue to talk about how we can use our Spiritual Gifts. Come with ideas, questions, and suggestions! Amazing things happen when we share our thoughts in open, loving, and trusting ways! To quote Mahatma Gandhi, "In a gentle way you can shake the world". I look forward to the gentle ways in which we shake our world.
I am also very excited about the next book we will be reading! A Confident Heart by Renee Swope. This book changed my life! And I cannot wait to read it again, with you! If you don't have it yet, pick it up this week! We will be reading at a faster pace than we have in the past - 2 chapters a week. Please have the first 2 chapters read by October 11. There is so much we can talk about in each chapter, so our discussions will hit the highlights. We all come to this book with different experiences, so it will be beneficial if we are all on the same page (literally & figuratively) for our weekly discussions.
The blog is a great place to post queries & comments about what we're reading throughout the week! A notebook and the willingness to write in your book is a good idea for this study, too. The reflection & discussion questions at the end of the chapters are for your benefit, we will discuss only a few of them each week. As we learned in "My One Word", journaling, slowing down long enough to really process our thoughts through writing them down, is extremely beneficial. You owe it to yourself to spend quality time with your thoughts and God's Word. And like most everything in life, you will get out of this study, what you put into it. Unlike many things in life, you will actually get more out of it, because as we live in the Holy Spirit, he will bless us with the Fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23)
I can't wait to respond to God's love by reaching out to our community and to reveal our confident hearts through Renee Swope's book!!! The next few weeks are going to be Remarkable!
Thank you for being a part of this group! New friends are always welcome!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
P.S. My youngest brought home her first school library book, Love is a Handful of Honey. I hope your One Word continues to be an influence and blessing in your life every day.
I am very excited about our gathering this week! One of the "Re's" that our Re: group stands for is "Respond". We respond to the needs of our community by doing something to help those in need. There are many ways to do this indivudually, but there's something about coming together to serve others. The beauty of Faith Kitchen is that it offers both an individual way to contribute (donating food) and a more social way (group cooking). There's also the opportunity to Serve (Oct 10), offering a chance to physically get out into the community and share God's love in a real & pratical way. We have been talking about spiritual gifts and it seems that no matter what your gift is, you can find a way to use it in the Faith Kitchen Ministry! Please keep those who coordinate, contribute to, and benefit from this ministry in your prayers.
There have been a few e-mails regarding the cooking we will be doing on Friday, but if there are any more questions, please reach out to Tammy, Paula, or me. If you don't have contact information, please leave a post and I will get in touch with you privately.
A reminder that we will start at our regular time, 9:15am, with a snack & beverages, but we will be meeting in the big kitchen! We will be baking the meatloaves & then freezing them, so we need to start as close to on time as possible, so that we can finish within our time limit.
While we cook up a storm, we will continue to talk about how we can use our Spiritual Gifts. Come with ideas, questions, and suggestions! Amazing things happen when we share our thoughts in open, loving, and trusting ways! To quote Mahatma Gandhi, "In a gentle way you can shake the world". I look forward to the gentle ways in which we shake our world.
I am also very excited about the next book we will be reading! A Confident Heart by Renee Swope. This book changed my life! And I cannot wait to read it again, with you! If you don't have it yet, pick it up this week! We will be reading at a faster pace than we have in the past - 2 chapters a week. Please have the first 2 chapters read by October 11. There is so much we can talk about in each chapter, so our discussions will hit the highlights. We all come to this book with different experiences, so it will be beneficial if we are all on the same page (literally & figuratively) for our weekly discussions.
The blog is a great place to post queries & comments about what we're reading throughout the week! A notebook and the willingness to write in your book is a good idea for this study, too. The reflection & discussion questions at the end of the chapters are for your benefit, we will discuss only a few of them each week. As we learned in "My One Word", journaling, slowing down long enough to really process our thoughts through writing them down, is extremely beneficial. You owe it to yourself to spend quality time with your thoughts and God's Word. And like most everything in life, you will get out of this study, what you put into it. Unlike many things in life, you will actually get more out of it, because as we live in the Holy Spirit, he will bless us with the Fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23)
I can't wait to respond to God's love by reaching out to our community and to reveal our confident hearts through Renee Swope's book!!! The next few weeks are going to be Remarkable!
Thank you for being a part of this group! New friends are always welcome!!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
P.S. My youngest brought home her first school library book, Love is a Handful of Honey. I hope your One Word continues to be an influence and blessing in your life every day.
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
"The Plan - God's Word About Gifts"
"Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love." Ephesians 4:2
This week we continue with the WELCA study on Spiritual Gifts, "The Plan - God's Word About Gifts".
Last week we took an assessment to determine our gifts. Since then I have been given some more resources on Spiritual Gifts, including another assessment that uses 80 Questions and identifies 25 Spiritual Gifts, noting that these are not all the gifts listed in the New Testament. It also doesn't include gifts that were on the list that we used, like Music & Writing. Discerning your Spiritual Gifts is an Art, not a Science and scholars often have differing interpretations of the text. There are also different uses and depth to each assessment or inventory. If you would like a copy of this second inventory, I'd be happy to give you one. I may take it, just out of curiosity, to see what is the same and what is different between the two. I'll let you know! Maybe I do have some Artistic gifts! :)
Have you considered your passions & areas of need in relation to your gifts? That is the next step after discovering them, but the study doesn't give a specific week to really discuss this. It's a good idea to do this on your own, gathering a list or some ideas and then get together with others to talk about it. We do not use our gifts alone, "A spiritual gift is given to each of us as a means of helping the entire church." 1 Corinthians 12:7 We cannot keep our gifts to ourselves! We are called to share them & use them for God's purpose! Often times your gifts can be applied directly to opportunities within the church. Sometimes you have to be a little more creative and flexible!
This week our study looks at 3 readings that talk specifically about the gifts that the Holy Spirit gives and how to use them.
Read Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4. Follow the directions in the study guide on using the READIT method of analyzing the text. Please read these texts before Friday, as I would love to get right into discussing them and how we can apply Scripture to our everyday lives.
Of all the scripture I read this week, the opening verse of this post struck me to the core. The first part about being humble, gentle, & patient is definitely meant for me! While I continue to work on these, I still find my patience wearing thin and my nature giving way to harsh words and judgement, often times to those I love most. I thank God that He offers those very things to me that I forget to offer to others. Especially when I so often require of others the last part of the verse, "...making allowances for each other's faults because of your love."
Oh, how I hope and pray that on the days when I speak before my brain & heart catch up to my mouth that whomever I have hurt or offended makes an allowance for me! On the days that the best I have to offer is less than my best, I hope that those I disappoint or make weary will make an allowance for me! And on the days that humility & gentleness seem lost to me, I pray that those who know me on that day don't judge my whole character on that slip of the tongue or bravado, because that's not who I am. It is human nature to do stupid stuff, to let slip something you wish you could suck back in at the very moment it comes tumbling out, to be less than our best self 24/7! But that is the beauty of being a Christian - of being loved by the One who created us and loves us and gave His Son to die for us. That we are Sinner and Saint; that we can offer humility, gentleness, and make allowances for our Brothers & Sisters out of love one day and be the one in need on another.
Even when we are using the Gifts that the Holy Spirit has given us, we are not perfect. We are not perfect in knowing how to use them or in their execution. This is probably why Paul says in Romans 12:12 "...Be patient in trouble, and always be prayerful." and why he explains the Fruit of the Holy Spirit, "But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control." Galatians 5:22-23. We cannot do any of this on our own, but with God as our designer (Jeremiah 1:5) and the Holy Spirit giving us gifts and the fruit, we can boldly do His work. When we confess that we are in need, ask forgiveness and offer forgiveness, we are filled the the fruit of the Holy Spirit and are able to use our Spiritual Gifts with reckless abandon for the good of the Kingdom of God!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
This week we continue with the WELCA study on Spiritual Gifts, "The Plan - God's Word About Gifts".
Last week we took an assessment to determine our gifts. Since then I have been given some more resources on Spiritual Gifts, including another assessment that uses 80 Questions and identifies 25 Spiritual Gifts, noting that these are not all the gifts listed in the New Testament. It also doesn't include gifts that were on the list that we used, like Music & Writing. Discerning your Spiritual Gifts is an Art, not a Science and scholars often have differing interpretations of the text. There are also different uses and depth to each assessment or inventory. If you would like a copy of this second inventory, I'd be happy to give you one. I may take it, just out of curiosity, to see what is the same and what is different between the two. I'll let you know! Maybe I do have some Artistic gifts! :)
Have you considered your passions & areas of need in relation to your gifts? That is the next step after discovering them, but the study doesn't give a specific week to really discuss this. It's a good idea to do this on your own, gathering a list or some ideas and then get together with others to talk about it. We do not use our gifts alone, "A spiritual gift is given to each of us as a means of helping the entire church." 1 Corinthians 12:7 We cannot keep our gifts to ourselves! We are called to share them & use them for God's purpose! Often times your gifts can be applied directly to opportunities within the church. Sometimes you have to be a little more creative and flexible!
This week our study looks at 3 readings that talk specifically about the gifts that the Holy Spirit gives and how to use them.
Read Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4. Follow the directions in the study guide on using the READIT method of analyzing the text. Please read these texts before Friday, as I would love to get right into discussing them and how we can apply Scripture to our everyday lives.
Of all the scripture I read this week, the opening verse of this post struck me to the core. The first part about being humble, gentle, & patient is definitely meant for me! While I continue to work on these, I still find my patience wearing thin and my nature giving way to harsh words and judgement, often times to those I love most. I thank God that He offers those very things to me that I forget to offer to others. Especially when I so often require of others the last part of the verse, "...making allowances for each other's faults because of your love."
Oh, how I hope and pray that on the days when I speak before my brain & heart catch up to my mouth that whomever I have hurt or offended makes an allowance for me! On the days that the best I have to offer is less than my best, I hope that those I disappoint or make weary will make an allowance for me! And on the days that humility & gentleness seem lost to me, I pray that those who know me on that day don't judge my whole character on that slip of the tongue or bravado, because that's not who I am. It is human nature to do stupid stuff, to let slip something you wish you could suck back in at the very moment it comes tumbling out, to be less than our best self 24/7! But that is the beauty of being a Christian - of being loved by the One who created us and loves us and gave His Son to die for us. That we are Sinner and Saint; that we can offer humility, gentleness, and make allowances for our Brothers & Sisters out of love one day and be the one in need on another.
Even when we are using the Gifts that the Holy Spirit has given us, we are not perfect. We are not perfect in knowing how to use them or in their execution. This is probably why Paul says in Romans 12:12 "...Be patient in trouble, and always be prayerful." and why he explains the Fruit of the Holy Spirit, "But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control." Galatians 5:22-23. We cannot do any of this on our own, but with God as our designer (Jeremiah 1:5) and the Holy Spirit giving us gifts and the fruit, we can boldly do His work. When we confess that we are in need, ask forgiveness and offer forgiveness, we are filled the the fruit of the Holy Spirit and are able to use our Spiritual Gifts with reckless abandon for the good of the Kingdom of God!
Your Partner in Ministry,
Shelly
"Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." Proverbs 16:24
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